Bad day? How to bring it round...

Growing up is exciting and exhilarating, I’ve got money I can spend and there’s nothing holding me back! But I didn’t anticipate how hard it would be.

I’ve always done jobs that are easy and haven’t tested my potential then going into a career that did was like a sledgehammer to the face. I always said in interviews how much I wanted to be challenged and how I yearned for a challenge.

Now I’m like “oh sh*t this is hard!”. I never really knew what a bad day looked like until now.

What my 'week of good things' looks like

Go to sleep happy

When I’ve had a bad day it festers. It sits there in my gut and radiates toxic negativity, infecting my stress levels and my sleep. All of a sudden one bad day turned into a bad week, I needed a solution.

I created a plan for myself so that I would always go to sleep focusing on the positive things that happened that day. I do my night time routine and then I sit for five minutes before I go to sleep and write down three things in my diary that have been positive about today. For example; hitting targets at work or a specific improvement I’ve made or just times I have had a good laugh.

The magic is, the minute you put one positive thing down, you remember a bunch of other good stuff that happened that day. Your brain just shoved them underneath all the negative stuff that you’ve been expensing all of your energy on.

As cringey as it sounds doing this makes me go to sleep smiling.

Feedback

As much as I HATE getting feedback, I would rather pull my own eyes out than be told what I’m doing wrong, it is crucial for self development. It also opens up that door for you to ask questions and explore the root of the problem.

When I’m having a bad day all I want is a hug and someone to tell me I’m amazing, but what I need is someone to tell me “look this is where it’s going wrong for you, and this is how you can fix it”.

Balance out what you want and what you need and it stops that bad day from multiplying.

The challenge or the easy life?

I am a natural born quitter. 100% I want to quit everything. My brain would rather go and start something new than work itself through a challenge, but recently I’ve felt how rewarding it is to ride it through.

Battling through a challenge and coming through the otherside is 10x more satisfying than quitting and moving on.

“But Han what if you don’t come through the other side?” … How many difficult situations have you not bounced back from? How many moments in your life can you look back on now and think “Well that was a sticky situation” (usually followed by a little chuckle and a smug smile)? Pretty much all of them.

Your chances of making it through are 99.9% so dust yourself down and believe in your own strength.

It is just a bad day.

Han x